The French author Leon Paul Blouet once wrote that flirtation was ‘attention without intention’.
Whether you agree or not, we are all flirts in our own way. The only difference is that men do it obviously, and women are more subtle. You’re only cheating if you actually follow up on the orgasmic innuendos that were mentioned. I know flirting can destroy trust, but whether you agree or not, everyone is a flirt.
Flirtation is used today in most scenarios, to persuade a cab driver to take you somewhere out of their reach, to win over business deals, to persuade someone to employ you, to get a nickel off your overcharged fare!
The problem with flirting is that an individual does not always know when they are doing it. You could be talking to someone for one minute. And the next thing you know, they’re jumping into your sack! But be realistic here. If there is a slight intention in the flirtation, then that is a different story, and anything but acting on it with the intention of making out, should not be taken seriously. Flirting is fun, and an essential and universal part of human interaction. Everyone indulges in it, whether it’s in front of a partner or behind their back.
Our achievements in everything we do from art to rocket science may be merely side-effects of the essential ability to charm. An exchange of admiring glances or a bit of light-hearted flirtatious banter can brighten the day, raise self esteem, and strengthen social bonds. So before you throw a tantrum and ask your partner to take a hike, be bold and look beyond this age-old dilemma.
Flirty text messaging?
The latest definition of cheating comes from flirty text messaging. Normally, this starts as cheap fun in an office atmosphere, but again, if it’s not acted upon, why are we getting ourselves worked up over words? Everybody knows that a text is just a text, and nothing else. When you start reading between the lines, you’d not only confuse yourself more, but you’re probably damaging a relationship over nothing.
This is where trust comes into play. If you’ve found your partner texting fascinating messages to someone else, then don’t assume it’s cheating. In fact, you should ask what it is they were doing and clear it up properly. The worst case scenario could be assuming something without knowing all the information. What could be assumed as cheating could easily be harmless fun. The course of true love never did run smooth. And remember, actions speak louder than texted words.
