Giving surprises to your loved ones can spice up the romance and reignite the passion in a relationship. Ask HR professional, Smita Jaisingh, who planned a love-filled surprise for her husband, who was going through a busy time because of his travelling schedules. "That month, we hardly spent time together. Both of us were irritated and frustrated and the frequency of fights increased. I realized that the cause of our problem was lack of time. So, on our day off, instead of whining over the issues, I planned a 'day out' for the two of us. We went for a long drive, stopped by at our favourite joints and I surprised him with a romantic dinner." A long chat and some love-filled moments really worked for Smita.
Who doesn't like surprises? But when it comes to guys surprising girls, the fairer sex usually ends up waiting endlessly. Finally, they directly ask their partner to plan a surprise for them. But Richa Jain, an IT professional, feels that whatever it is, a surprise is a surprise. "He is romantic. But when it comes to giving surprises, he is bad. I had told him many times, both directly and indirectly, about how much I loved getting surprises. But, I always ended up being disappointed. Then one day, after a hectic day at work, when I returned home, I saw that he had organised a little 'party' for the two of us. Not only had he prepared a lavish dinner but also tidied the entire house. I really felt special and loved."
Yes, surprises need not necessarily be planned for special occasions. Surprises add a 'feel good' factor to your relationship; whether you are 18 or 80. And, a sudden surprise can turn your dull day bright. A sudden something under your spouse's pillow, is enough to put a smile on his/her face. When you are in a relationship for years, sometimes love seems to fizzle out. During such occasions, surprises help in reviving a relationship.
By Madhavi Dharia Shah
