GreenGod's Blog: 04/21/17

Enjoy every moment you have, because Life has no rewinds, only flashbacks..,
Make Sure it's all Worth it..!!!

Be more Concerned with your Character than With your Reputation,
Your Character is, What you really are,
While, your Reputation is What Others Think you are.!!

11 Science-Backed Facts About Breakups That Could Clear Your Head Someday!

Breakups are among the worst things to happen to human kind. They make you weak, insecure and make you question everything around you. Some people move on earlier, while others take a long time. Some cry and feel better, and some simply disconnect. So how do the dynamics really work?

Well, let's let science answer that. Read on as we tell you the science behind breakups.

1. Most people suffer from an identity crisis

According to a research published in Personality and Psychology Bulletin, the more committed a person is in a relationship, the higher the chances of them changing after a break up. You may feel like an entirely different person yourself.

2. Loss of appetite is absolutely normal after a split

Experts note that stressful thoughts increase our body's cortisol levels, that diverts the blood away from your digestive track, leaving you with GI troubles, and giving you a nauseous feeling at the thought of food.

3. Moving on after a break up is similar to ending an addiction

Science has proved that love is a drug. Just the way you have a hard time detoxing or giving up on smoking, you'll have issues getting over the ex. Research published on helenfisher.com confirmed falling in love is synonymous to a drug habit - it's hard to break from it. Quitting is never easy, and now you know!

4. Thinking about your ex all the time may actually help you get over them

A study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science found that those who repeatedly talk about their ex end up finding their individuality sooner.

5. Fights over money can end your relationship

According to a study in Family and Relations Journal, arguments about money, debt, income or net worth reflect deeper issues in your relationship. In fact, fighting over finances is a top reason for divorce.

6. Men break up over se*ual infidelity

We aren't surprised, are we? Guys are programmed in a way that they'll dump you if you cheat on them, said a study conducted by Saint Louis University. It further elaborated that 'se*ual infidelity posses a direct threat to the genetic fitness of a male.'

7. Women mostly give up on a relationship over emotional cheating

Unlike guys, women are biologically different. Women aren't okay with cheating. But for them, physical infidelity can be less damaging than emotional infidelity as it may entail that he's leaving his family for another woman.

8. Participating in breakup studies helps people get over a break up

A paper published in the Social Psychology and Personality Science journal said that when participants are trying to study relationship dissolution, they get a better understanding of human relationships as a result of which they move on faster.

9. Men have a tougher time coping up with a breakup than women

Research conducted in Binghamton University claimed that women emotionally break after a split, but men suffer in the long term. Basically after the loss sinks in.

10. Heartache is similar to physical pain

Researchers at the University of Amsterdam suggested in a study that breakups actually affect the parasympathetic nervous system, which involves sexual arousal, digestion, and regulation of internal organs (like the heart). Participants revealed that after facing rejection, their heart rates slowed for a while. It was even worse when the rejection came out of nowhere, and it also happened if the participant feared the possibility.

11. Excessive social media is unhealthy for your relationship

This fact certainly doesn't amuse us. Excessive use of Facebook can seriously damage your relationship. Emotional and physical cheating, breakups, and divorce all stem from social media, according to a study published in the journal Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking.

From Stress to Strength

Being jobless for the last three months I am depressed now a days. My son has lost his admission from a good school and he might have to go to a less qualitative school. I have moved from a spacious apartment to a less good apartment in order to reduce my living expenses. My wife, being a woman, naturally has built extra stress. On top of that my father in law has died a week ago which has added fuel to fire, putting our family in more miserable state. And now I have met an accident too !!!

In these circumstances I have two mental choices; either to feel depressed and keep thinking about my complications, loosening my peace of mind and impacting my family life OR replace my negative thoughts with 7 super mental powers about self confidence, positivity, consistent courage and implosiveness and keep applying for new jobs with positive momentum. I choose the second option because I believe that that the pain I am undergoing today will empower my character. My strengths will then boost my confidence and make me a successful man one day. I understand that time does not stop and does not remain the same. I understand that good and bad phases are part of the package called life. While good times make me happy; bad times strengthen the 'inner' me. I don't really know how much time it would take to regain my blessings and I don't know the logic on why God has put me in this exam however I believe in the quote which says that God takes men into deep waters not to drown them but to cleanse them. Although my mind cannot fathom the wisdom behind God's decision but I truly believe in His decisions. I also believe in the four spiritual powers; one of them says that whatever is happening is the best thing that could have happened.

After two months: By the grace of God, I have landed on a job which is very exciting, full of professional exposure and offers a nice salary. Time has healed my wife's mental stress due to the death of her father although such kind of demise loss is irreplaceable. My son and daughter have got admission in a good school because the admissions for new academic year were still open !

Overall commentary on this episode of life is that time does not stop and does not remain the same. A person needs to have the resilient approach towards life such that he does not loses his focus from pursuit of happiness and consistently keep applying the great principles of life such as honesty, hard work and positive life approach. Now that I am back on the track of normal life so I can confidently state that the most important things which helped me fight crisis were my consistent trait of patience, firm belief in God and positive attitude towards life applying 7 super mental powers all the times. So, while I wish you all the best life can offer you, I would highly recommend demonstrate the same approach towards life in case you are trapped in any of such situations.

Once again, I wish you all the best!